What Would Jimmy Do?

A few nights ago we had our first eggnog of the season. Although I’m pretty sure it’s available at other times, stores usually prominently display it and we usually only have it during the holidays, and probably more around Christmas time than Thanksgiving.

Over the years I’ve mixed eggnog with bourbon, brandy, rum and various other spirits. This year I chose rum…. for no particular reason, but I remember reading about the Jamestown settlers making eggnog and using rum. I think the settlers in Jamestown probably created the first American batch of eggnog, although I’m not sure how closely it resembled the concoction we make or buy in a store today. 

As to why it’s become a “holiday drink” over the years goes back to the early days of eggnog, when spices were a luxury — they were most likely to be used around special occasions like winter holidays, baked into main dishes and desserts and added to drinks. The winter months also provided natural refrigeration for eggnog. The alcohol prevented the spread of bacteria, the cold air helped the milk and cream stay cool and, over time, eggnog became a regular element of the holiday season. 
So I guess we’ve now officially kicked off the holiday season here in out house….
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Today, December 7, is the 81st anniversary of “a date that will live in infamy.”

On early Sunday morning of December 7, 1941, the sudden news reports of an attack by a foreign power stunned Americans just as much, if not more, than it did on 9/11. It was one of the most violent attacks ever against U.S. forces — the Japanese air raid, which came with no declaration of war, destroyed four battleships and damaged four more in Pearl Harbor in just two hours. 

Among the American armed forces, there were a total of 2,335 killed, including 2,008 navy personnel, 109 marines, and 218 army. 68 civilians also lost their lives, making the total facilities 2,403 people. 
On December 7, 1941 the US was suddenly and without warning thrust into World War II.

National Pearl Harbor Remembrance Day was declared in 1944 by the United States Congress. It is observed on December 7 to honor the victims of the attack on Pearl Harbor. It is not a federal holiday, so schools, government offices and businesses don’t close but many organizations recognize the historical day and mark the occasion. The flag of the U.S. is traditionally flown at half-mast in honor of those who were killed or injured during the attack.

Today is one of those days that we should “never forget.” Take some time today to remember those who lost their lives and impact the attack had on our nation. 
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Today, December 6, is St. Nicholas Day. Growing up, I never knew much about St. Nicholas Day — I never heard it mentioned by my parents, and obviously, it was never “celebrated.” When Claire was growing up, her family always celebrated the day. I think we tried it a few times with out kids, but it really never became a “tradition.”

So, as you may have guessed, today’s topic is Saint Nicholas Day. St Nicholas was a bishop who was known for his good deeds, especially for the needy and children. He regularly gave generously and anonymously. Nicholas was officially recognized as a saint in the 800s and in the 1200s Catholics in France began celebrating Bishop Nicholas Day — on December 6.

In the 3rd century, in the village of Patara in Turkey (part of Greece in those days,) a wealthy couple gave birth to a boy they named Nicholas. Tragically, while Nicholas was young, an epidemic took the lives of both of his parents. Having been raised a Christian, he dedicated his life to service, sold all of his belongings, and used his inheritance to help the poor and infirm. Eventually, Nicholas became a bishop, and his reputation for helping children, sailors, and other people in need spread far and wide. For this, the Roman emperor Diocletian persecuted and imprisoned him (and other religious men) — but only until the Romans realized that they had so filled their prisons with clergy that they had no place to put the thieves and murderers. So the Romans let the religious men go free. Upon his release, Nicholas continued his charity work until he died on December 6, 343 A.D. It was said that a liquid that formed in his grave had healing powers. This and other legends about Nicholas fostered devotion to him and inspired traditions still practiced today.

The most common way to celebrate St. Nicholas Day is to leave shoes out for St. Nicholas to place small gifts in — socks work, too. Traditionally, the gifts are simply small candies or coins — small items that bring joy to children. The candy cane is also a symbol of St. Nicholas, representing his staff. A traditional treat on St. Nicholas Day is Spicy Sinterklaas Cake, known as Speculaas. These are spicy, ginger cookies, often baked in a mold the shape of St. Nicholas. Some traditions equate St. Nicholas with Sant Claus, which means that St. Nicholas comes on the night of December 24 — not December 5.

So is St. Nicholas really Santa Claus? Some people say yes, others disagree…. but there are a few legends of St. Nicholas that relate to the story of Santa Claus — some about gift-giving and some about children.

In one tale, a poor man had three daughters and no dowry for any of them, thus eliminating their chance at marriage and risking their being sold into slavery. Mysteriously, as each girl came of marriageable age, a bag of gold was lobbed through a window and landed in a sock or shoe near the hearth. The unknown gift-giver was presumed to have been Nicholas, and the situation inspired the placement by the fireplace of stockings or shoes, into which gifts were placed.

Another legend, from long after Nicholas’s passing says in his home village, during a celebration on the anniversary of Nicholas’s death, a young boy was kidnapped to become a slave to a neighboring region’s emir. The family grieved for a year, and on the anniversary of the boy’s disappearance, they refused to leave their home. Good thing — as the story goes, Nicholas appeared, spirited the boy away from his captors, and deposited him in his house, along with the gold cup from which he was serving the emir still in his hand. 

Today, St. Nicholas is venerated as the patron not only of children but also of sailors, captives, travelers, marriageable maidens, laborers — even thieves and murderers. 
Happy St. Nicholas Day.
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Every year about this time, various dictionaries come up with a “Word of the Year.” Sometimes it’s a completely new word, sometimes it’s a word made up of a combination of other words, sometimes it’s just a new use of an existing word, sometimes it’s more than one word, and sometimes its isn’t a word at all — think emoji.

I checked a few days ago and the Oxford Dictionary hadn’t yet chosen their Word of the Year for 2022. They had it narrowed down to three choices: metaverse, #IStandWith, and Goblin mode. So we’ll stand by anxiously awaiting Oxford’s choice.

But Merriam-Webster has chosen it’s Word of the year. Their choice for 2022 is gaslighting. I looked up gaslighting in an old hard-copy dictionary (we really do still have one) and the definition read as follows: manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity.
I guess today, in this age of misinformation, fake news, conspiracy theories, Twitter trolls, etc, gaslighting is an appropriate choice for Word of the Year. 

The origin of the term gaslighting was apparently from the title of a 1938 play, and the movie based on that play. The plot involves a man attempting to make his wife believe that she is going insane. His mysterious activities in the attic cause the house’s gas lights to dim, but he insists to his wife that the lights are not dimming and that she can’t trust her own perceptions.

In recent years, the term gaslighting has changed a little, into something simpler and broader — “the act of grossly misleading someone, especially for a personal advantage.” So in today’s world, the word falls into the same category as deception and manipulation, like fake news.
Especially in the political world, the idea of a deliberate conspiracy to mislead has made gaslighting useful in describing lies that are part of a larger plan.

I think now would be a good time to register my vote for Word of the Year…. it’s a term and practice that is particularly disturbing to me. My choice — deepfake. Deepfake is an image or recording that has been convincingly altered and manipulated to misrepresent someone as doing or saying something that was not actually done or said. This is especially dangerous, because it offers visual and/or sound (incorrect) evidence to support a conspiracy, etc. Lots and lots of people already believe what they read without checking — probably even more people will believe what they see and hear. Just my thought….

Anyhow, Merriam-Webster points out that the English language has lots of ways to say “lie” — words like falsehood and untruth, deceitfulness, prevarication, dissemble and fib. During the Cold War, disinformation became popular.

Recently, with the enormous increase in communication channels and technologies that can be used to mislead, gaslighting has become the favored word for the perception of deception — so gaslighting it is — the Word of the Year.
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I know you’ve all been waiting, and it’s again that time of year when I report back to you on how I did with this year’s New Year Resolutions. You’re probably aware that in the past couple of years, I cut back on the number of resolutions I make. I’ve shortened my yearly list and made each resolution more realistic, with a better chance of success. I plan to go with that plan again this year. 
But, as promised, here’ s how I did with my resolutions for 2022….here’s last year’s list.

· Even though in the past, I’ve resolved to be nicer to people, this year I resolve to be extra nice to people that do exactly what I want.
+ I did pretty good on this one. I think, in general, that I was nicer this year… but in fairness, some people that I could have been extra nice to, didn’t do anywhere near what I wanted — something beyond my control.

· Although I don’t read, or understand, “Tweets,” and in the past I’ve resolved (unsuccessfully) to do one, this year I resolve to write one.
+ Well, I’m kind of proud to say that I still haven’t “tweeted,” and in all honesty I didn’t even write one this year. Seems like the whole year I kept hearing about the Elon Musk takeover of Twitter. And since it’s happened, I won’t be tweeting anytime soon — like ever. Musk buying Twitter was beyond my control and the reason I couldn’t complete this resolution

· Last year I resolved to become really good at procrastination — I think I’ll be able to accomplish that this year — or maybe next year.
+ I think I did really good with this one, I have a pretty long list of things I didn’t accomplish this year, so I pushed them into 2023. I guess I’d have to give myself a “job well-done” for this resolution.

· I resolve to be more optimistic in 2022 — I will always look at my wine glass as half-full, not half empty.
+ Once again, I think I did good — my optimism has increased. We increased our deliveries of wine and I now see my glass as not only half-full, but refillable.

So all-in-all I’d say I did pretty good with my resolutions for this year. Now during the next couple of weeks, I’ll put together my list for 2023…. seems like the older I get the harder it is to come up with resolutions that will make me an even better person. But keep checking this blog to see how I’ll strive to be better next year.
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Needless to say, today is the first day of a very busy month. December is filled with holiday activities and I’m sure, if your body could stand it, every evening would be filled with activities.

December is the 12th (and last) month in our modern-day Gregorian calendar — and in the preceding Julian calendar. But it was the 10th month of the Roman calendar, so “December” comes from the Latin word decem, meaning “ten.” December originally consisted of 30 days. When January and February were added to the calendar, December was shortened to 29 days. Then, when the Julian calendar was adopted, two days were added to December, making it 31 days long.

Besides the obvious Christmas and New Year’s Eve holidays, Decemer happenings include Saint Nicholas Day, National Pearl Harbor Remembrance Day, St. Lucia’s Day, Bill of Rights Day, Wright Brothers Day, Hanukkah, and Boxing Day as well as the Winter Solstice and the first day of Kwanzaa.

The shortest day of the year (the one with the least amount of daylight) occurs on December 21, the Winter Solstice and first day of winter.
The full Moon for December appears on December 7 and known as the full Cold Moon.
An old almanac prediction states that if snow falls on Christmas Day, Easter will be warm, green and sunny.
The term Yuletide comes from a Norse tradition of cutting and burning a tree to bring in the Winter Solstice. This was to last through 12 days — later known as the 12 days of Christmas.
Saint Nicholas, who would eventually be called Santa Claus, was originally the patron saint of Children, thieves and pawnbrokers
December 28th is considered by some to be the unluckiest day of the year.
The first artificial Christmas tree was made in Germany, fashioned out of goose feathers that were dyed green
Spiders and spider webs are considered good luck on Christmas.
Common decorations found on Christmas trees, have specific meanings… candles — the light of the world, the Star at the top is a reminder of the first Christmas night and candy canes represent the Shepherd’s cane.

So…..
Welcome December.
New month, new chapter, new page & new wishes.
May the month give you courage, strength, confidence, patience, and peace.
May every day in December be filled with hope, love, sunshine, and energy.
Let there be joy, fun, and laughter.
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A while back I read an article — I think it may have been by Andy Rooney — that indicated that he’s actually developed an attraction for some some of his possessions. I got to thinking about that and decided that I may have done the same thing.

I remember that our kids both had inanimate objects that they had a real attraction to — so much so that they wouldn’t leave the house without them, or if one became lost, it created a real crisis. I don’t remember having anything like that when I was young, but later in life, I realized that I had grown attached to some objects. After we were married, Claire accidentally “ruined” a couple of my favorite shirts, and tossed them out. I didn’t think so at the time, but thinking about it, I think I had actually developed some kind of attraction to those shirts.

Well, something like this just begs for some of my extensive research, so I dug into the subject a bit. I ran across one “expert” that believed (extreme) object attachment in adults can form as a way to compensate for a lack of interpersonal attachment or as a symptom of a hoarding disorder. As individuals age, they inevitably experience a series of cognitive, emotional, and physical changes that may influence their attachment to objects. I guess that all sounds somewhat reasonable to me.

Object attachment is the experience a person has when they feel an emotional attachment to an inanimate object and may even feel a sense of loss if they were to part with the object. Studies indicate that normative levels of object attachment exist across one’s lifespan. For example, many adults own “a favorite suit” or a “lucky sweater” to which they feel emotionally attached, whether for aesthetic (“I like how I look when I wear it’,”) sentimental; (”My dad gave me this watch,”) or superstitious purposes (”If I wear this on gameday, my football team will win.”)

The research papers I read indicate that hoarding disorder symptoms usually begin before the age of 20 and the symptoms continue to increase throughout the life of the hoarder. As adults age, they may have increased sentimental thoughts toward their possessions that elicit subsequent increases in attachment to those objects.

Obviously, there’s way too much data on this subject to discuss here, but one area that came to light during my extensive research, caught my eye… animism.
According to some experts, animism is one of the strangest reasons why one can suffer from objectophilia. Animism is the religious belief that objects and structures possess a distinct spiritual presence. Hence, the phrase “That doll is possessed.” Potentially, animism perceives all things — animals, plants, rocks, rivers, weather systems, human handiwork, etc. as animated and alive. This seems like a good place to get off this subject. 

I really didn’t intend to to do as much extensive research on this subject as I did — I just wondered why I still miss my shirts so much…..
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Today is Rory and Ellie’s birthday. When I talk about them to friends, I alway mention that they are twins. For some reason, twins are just fascinating. I remember when I was a kid I always thought it would be so cool to be a twin.

Before Rory and Ellie were born, I heard a lot about twins — I’m sure some of it was true and some of it wasn’t. I think Dave and Chassie are convinced that Rory and Ellie share a language all their own. Turns out they’re probably right — if you’ve ever seen two young siblings readily conversing in complete gibberish, you likely witnessed idoglossia —an autonomous language often created and shared between twins. According to research published in the journal Institute of General Linguistics, about 40 percent of twins invent their own languages. The researchers believe that super-close siblings (they don’t actually have to be twins, but usually are) sometimes use each other as models for learning vocabulary, applying meanings to sounds — even if those sounds are complete nonsense. Usually their special lingo disappears as their vocabulary expands and by the time they start to school, but not always.

While on the subject, some other interesting things….
• Identical twins have different fingerprints
• Twins start interacting in the womb at 14 weeks
• Identical twins can develop different diseases
• Nigeria has the highest rate of multiple births and the most identical twins
• China has the lowest rate
• Mothers of twins live longer

But today is extra special for Rory and Ellie — and the rest of us. I’ve heard it said, and Dave and Chassie might be able to verify, that “It’s double the giggles, double the grins, and double the trouble if you’re blessed with twins.”

If you think about it lots of good things come in pairs — gloves, shoe laces, eyes, ears, windshield wipers, chopsticks, socks…. but best of all, are twins.

Happy Birthday to Rory and Ellie — double the candles means double the cake! Here’s to another year of great adventures, happy memories and lots of love — I can’t tell you apart, but I love you equally.
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There are special people in our lives that never leave us even after they are gone.
Scott was one of those people…. my first memories of Scott are of a perfect little kid. Of course a lot of little kids seem perfect when you’re not their parents. But even though I wasn’t around him a lot over the years, I never saw a “bad” — or even an unpleasant, side to him. 

Admittedly it was from a distance, but I saw Scott grow up and become, by any standard, successful. He excelled at just about anything he attempted — and anything he did, he did well. His dad, Al, and I used to periodically talk about our kids and Al always said Scott drove him crazy sometimes because everything he did had to be perfect. Al thought he must have taken more after his mom than himself. I don’t know if that’s true, but if you knew Scott, it was obvious he was the product of good parenting.

Scott’s life was way too short — but he made the most of it. I read something once that went something like this….
Life is a song — sing it. Life is a game — play it. Life is a challenge — meet it. Life is a dream — realize it. Life is a sacrifice — offer it. Life is love — enjoy it. 
I know it wasn’t necessarily always easy, but Scott did just that and in the end, it’s not how long life is, but how good it is that matters.

They say that grief is the price we pay for love — today we’re all paying that price, but we can take comfort knowing that although life has to end — love doesn’t. 
Here’s to Scott — a life spent bringing joy, laughter and happiness to others….
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The holiday of Thanksgiving has a long and often conflicting story throughout U.S. history, but over the years one thing has remained the same — it’s a season of gratitude. In today’s world, it can be difficult to slow down and take time to feel thankful for what we have. It would do us all good to take a moment and remember the little things in life — and every little thing we’re thankful for. What are some of those things? Everyone will (and should) have their own list, but here’s some things that aren’t “things” to be thankful for:
Friends — strong friendships get us through the hard times and the good times… this would be a good time to reach out to some of those friends and tell them thanks.
Family — It goes without saying that without family, many, or most, of us wouldn’t be where we are today. No matter if you’re single, married with a houseful of children and your relatives live miles away or right next door, today’s a good day to feel grateful to your family and recognize how important they’ve been in your life.
Good Health — health is one of the most important things…. without good health we can’t do much else. We should take a moment to be thankful for the good health we have.
A place to call home — A lot of people around the world don’t have permanent place or home — so if you’ve got a roof over your head, that’s a good thing to be thankful for.
Sense of Safety — People in lots of the world and more and more in the United States, don’t have a sense of safety this Thanksgiving. If you’re fortunate enough to feel safe in the community where you live, be thankful for how fortunate you are not to have to live in fear this Thanksgiving.

Prior to the formal establishment of Thanksgiving in the United States, harvest festivals had been celebrated for centuries by Native Americans, with colonial services dating back to the late 16th century. The autumn feasts celebrated the harvest of crops after a season of bountiful growth. A the story goes, it was in the early 1600s when communities of settlers in both Massachusetts and Virginia held feasts to give thanks for their survival, for the fertility of their fields, and for their faith.

The most widely know early Thanksgiving is that of the Pilgrims in Plymouth, Massachusetts, who shared an autumn harvest feast with the Wampanoag Native Americans in 1621. This feast, which lasted for three days, is considered the “first” Thanksgiving celebration in the colonies.

We hear a lot about the Pilgrims, especially around Thanksgiving. So what happened to the Pilgrims?
A pilgrim is a person who goes on a long journey, often with a religious or moral purpose, and especially to a foreign land. Those arriving in the colonies aboard the Mayflower certainly could be considered pilgrims. Shortly after the Mayflower arrived, the first baby of the new arrivals was born — a boy. His parents (William and Susannah White) named him Peregrine — a word that means traveling from far away and also means pilgrim.

The author of Mourt’s Relation in 1622 refers to the Plymouth Colonists as pilgrims. Governor William Bradford calls the Plymouth settlers pilgrims when he writes about their departure from Leiden, Holland to come to America: “They knew they were pilgrims, and looked not much on those things, but lifted up their eyes to the heavens, their dearest country; and quieted their spirits.” Governor Bradford also wrote a poem in which her refers to himself as a pilgrim.”

By the early 1800s, “pilgrim” became the most popular term applied to all the Mayflower passengers — and even to other people arriving in Plymouth. But the English people who settled Plymouth in the 1620s are generally called the Pilgrims.

After arriving in Plymouth Harbor in December of 1620, the colonist began building their town. Although they occasionally caught glimpses of Native People, it wasn’t until four months after their arrival that the colonists met and communicated with them. In March of 1621, the two groups made a treaty of mutual protection. The treaty had six points, including…. neither party would harm the other. If anything was stolen, it would be returned and the offending person returned to his own people for punishment. Both sides agreed to leave their weapons behind when meeting, and the two groups would serve as allies in times of war. 

Seems like people in 1621 knew more about social interaction than we do today. Maybe today’s a good day to think about that first Thanksgiving and realize how far we have and haven’t come in all these years. 
Happy Thanksgiving!!
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