{"id":838,"date":"2016-09-29T19:10:20","date_gmt":"2016-09-29T19:10:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/jimmy.ekota.net\/?p=838"},"modified":"2017-08-07T18:13:52","modified_gmt":"2017-08-07T18:13:52","slug":"the-eyes-have-it-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/jimmy.ekota.net\/?p=838","title":{"rendered":"The Eyes Have It"},"content":{"rendered":"

For the past few years, we have participated at our church on occasion by helping the priest distribute Communion. Now that you\u2019ve gasped, and re-read the sentence, we can get on with the subject of this blog. No, it really has nothing to do with the fact that we distribute communion. But what I\u2019ve noticed is that when people approach to receive communion, a very high percentage don\u2019t make eye contact \u2014 any<\/em> eye contact.<\/p>\n

Of course this got me to thinking about eye contact and a bit about just eyes. After my usual extensive research on the subject kicked in, I discovered some interesting \u201cfacts\u201d about eye contact\u2026
\nFemales look more at people they are talking to than do males.
\nWe increase eye contact when dealing with people we like, admire, or who have power over us.
\nWe judge relationships by the amount of eye contact exchanged \u2014 the greater the eye contact, the closer the relationship.
\nEye contact produces a powerful, subconscious sense of connection that extends even to drawn or photographed eyes.
\nWe reduce eye contact when we are talking about something shameful or embarrassing, when we are sad or depressed, and when we are accessing internal thoughts or emotions.
\nWe avoid eye contact in elevators, subways, crowded buses or trains (we face the door of the elevator or stare at our phones, because it helps us manage the insecurity of having our personal space invaded)
\nI read that the biggest body language myth concerning liars is that they avoid eye contact. It\u2019s true that some liars (generally, children) find it difficult to lie while looking directly at you, but many accomplished liars actually overcompensate to \u201cprove\u201d that they are not lying by making too much eye contact and holding it too long.
\nI\u2019ve mentioned it before, but I think that today a lot (most?) people spend most of their time looking into electronic gadgets and eye to eye contact just makes them uncomfortable.
\nAnyhow, eyes are a means of communication and they communicate more than you think \u2014 a lot of what they communicate you can\u2019t control. You can control you facial expressions, but not your eyes.<\/p>\n

While doing my extensive research, I ran across an interesting article that indicated that the color of ones eyes is an important metric in determining character. A deep blue color means that the individual is a highly sexed yet gentle and sensitive being. Light blue eyes indicates a person is likely to enjoy flirting with the opposite sex. Dark green eyes are highly energized and also very inventive – both in practical and personal affairs. Chocolate brown eyes indicate some of the genetic traits of the Mediterranean and Middle Eastern races and indicate an extremely passionate character who loves social life and meeting many different people. Grey eyes reveal a high degree of intelligence and imagination but passion may be less pronounced. Black eyes are very rare \u2014 they reveal a somewhat strong natured individual that doesn\u2019t always present their case with what you\u2019d call finesse. I guess if people are wearing colored contact lenses, all bets are off.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a shame we don\u2019t make eye contact so much anymore, because eyes are so much a part of our life, and our vocabulary\u2026 we hear about the eye of the storm and a bird\u2019s eye view or a gleam in the eye. I used to catch a late flight from California called the red eye to get home, often with bloodshot eyes, to the apple of my eye, Claire. There\u2019s a song called can\u2019t take my eyes off you that probably refers to someone that\u2019s easy on the eye. A roving eye will get you in trouble, especially if you\u2019re in the public eye. I used to think that my parents had eyes in the back of their heads and when I went to school, kids that wore glasses were referred to as four eyes and good looking girls were eye candy.<\/p>\n

Buddha has a lot of quotes, but one that seems to fit here is, \u201cHe who experiences the unity of life sees his own Self in all beings, and all beings in his own Self, and looks on everything with an impartial eye.\u201d
\nI don\u2019t know about you, but this discussion has been a real eye-opener for me\u2026
\n\u2014 30 \u2014<\/p>\n

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